会那么幸运得奖吗?

就那么天真的参加了这个游戏。
哈哈哈哈, 哪知道我能够输入一个价钱。
就这样参加了。
如果有那么幸运的话,那就是我人生的第三幸运奖咯!
我的第一幸运就是能够入学到本地大学。让妈不用操心我的学业。
第二幸运就是拿到奖学金,让妈不用为我的学费担心。
如果这个有奖游戏能够让我赢到手机,这是我人生的第三幸运了!
哈哈哈哈。。。。因该下午吃太多大头菜。
就让到明天都有个希望和期待吧!
先感恩。赢不赢奖今晚都给了我一个希望和期待!

It's time to let go

Though still fighting with the emotion and rational.
Yup...non stop battling between this two since the day decision made... :(
Out of sudden saw another article titled "20 signs it's Time to Let Go".
After reading it, to my shock, I really score high for the signs.
Damn...then my emotion shouldn't win over. Below is the article to share

20 Signs It's Time To Let Go And Move On

1. When your thoughts go to memories more than the present.

2. When the situation causes you more pain than joy.

3. When you expect, hope and plead for the person, place or situation to change.

4. When you become complacent, bored or resentful.

5. When the pattern persists even though you tried to fix it.

6. When you feel alone, unheard or disrespected.

7. When the situation is holding you back from growing and being who you want to be.

8. When you stay, hoping and expecting things to get better.

9. When you cry more than you laugh and love.

10. When you feel exhausted emotionally, spiritualty and physically.

11. When you have lost your passion and joy.

12. When you core beliefs and values have changed and you sacrifice who you are.

13. When you stop having fun.

14. When you fear this is the best it will be.

15. When you force a smile to mask the pain.

16. When you lose who you are and stop dreaming.

17. When you hold on out of fear of the unknown.

18. When you sense you are holding onto something meant to be let go.

19. When the thought of being free of the situation feels expansive.

20. When you believe in a better life for yourself.

All the highlight points is what I having at the moment. Gosh....out of 20, I score 19.
Though been talking with best friends and  family on my current situation, the conclusion they had for my situation are it's is still all about them and there is no about me.
I thought I had been selfish enough to make the resignation happened. But still I still got attached here due to the reason I'm dignify to care about the company and the people in the company.
Dignify? Did I? Questioning myself a lot lately on my own character which they had bring up when trying to persuade me to stay. Sigh...after saw this article, should I convince myself this is the sign given by Lord Buddha to me?
It had been the second signs?
Oh Lord Buddha, please send me clear sign. Please forgive the stupid me in getting your sign. Please help enlightened me.

The battle of EMOTIONS and RATIONAL

This is the hardest battle of own self ever.
Thought rational had won over emotion but actually the battle yet ended. It just subsided for awhile.
The chat is never ending. Keep asking to stay. Though had remind myself those are only sweet talks to make you stay but the feeling said it is sincere.
This really killing me. I know the changes will took long if I stay. Can I endure with it while waiting the days come.
I had my answer but the emotion just went haywire. It split me apart. Just felt so torn.
With unknown root cause or reason, I am clueless for what I'm looking for. While the thought of rational winning over the battle but why the emotion still so much affected? Why still feel so attached? Why can't I just be cruel and determine with the decision?
Can Buddha please show me the road of clarity? Please guide me to a correct path.  Please let me get stronger for this battle.

最接近我心声

最近开了Linkedin 户口。哪里很多professional 职业。
也有很多专业作文。今天看了这一片很接近我的心声的：
接近的就是那个"guilt feel"

When it's 'Safe' to Say, "Hey, Boss, I'm Looking!"

At what point during her job search do you suppose Marissa Mayer, the current CEO of Yahoo, advised her boss at Google that she was “looking”? (The answer to this question, which may very well surprise you, is at the end of this blog.)

The truth of the matter is, if you are like most people, you are happy in your jobmost of the time. That does not alter the fact, however, that there are also times when you may honestly wonder if you’re not overlooking other genuine career opportunities outside your current company. You may begin to feel that you might just be “settling” for what you now have in your current job and be leaving money and career advancement opportunities “on the table.” That’s when you are most likely to . . .

• Occasionally visit indeed.com and similar online sites to see what may be available “out there.”
• Set up “saved searches,” so that the right career opportunities start being emailed to you.
• Update your LinkedIn profile.
• Begin receiving (and taking!) calls from “headhunters.”

All simply to “test the waters,” of course.

And, since you are already “flirting” with the job market, you may decide to go on a few “dates,” too, i.e., job interviews.

Again, though, simply to “test the waters.”

But what happens if these “dates” (interviews) begin to strongly suggest that, as you somewhat suspected, you may indeed be overlooking some genuine opportunities to advance your career? Well, the adrenaline can start pumping, suddenly a new-found sense ofexcitement can kick in, you start to get “butterflies” in your stomach, your heart beats just a little bit faster. . . and soon thereafter here they come . . .

The old GUILT feelings!

Dealing with the ‘Guilt’ Feelings

Why am I doing this? you ask yourself. Then, in answer to your own question, you’re quite likely to come up with answers such as these:

• Because I am not totally happy with my current job, or at least not as happy as I know I should be.
• I know for a fact that I am not being paid what I am worth.
• Will I ever receive a promotion, or am I destined to remain at basically the same level throughout my career with this company—no matter what I accomplish or how well I perform?
• Why won’t my boss trust me with more responsibility and authority?

Still, the guilt feelings persist.

In order to alleviate these guilt feelings, you decide that the best thing to do at this point is to “come clean” with your boss. After all, you do have a good relationship with her—actually, avery good relationship with her—right? She told you during your last performance review that she genuinely cared about you and wanted only the best for you and your family, didn’t she? Certainly, the boss will want to do what’s right for you, right? Maybe, after you “cleanse your soul,” by telling her you’re “looking,” you might actually end up getting a nice raise, perhaps even a promotion, right?

Wrong!

Two Reasons ‘Cleansing Your Soul’ with Your Boss is NOT a Good Idea

Here are at least TWO reasons why your reasoning is very wrong and filled with significantrisks to your career:

• First, how can you tell, for sure, that you do indeed have a “good” relationship with your boss? What if you guess wrong about the true nature of the relationship you have with her? What if you think you have a good—even GREAT!—relationship with her but she would beg to differ, if asked? Or, what if you do indeed currently have a “good relationship” with her but it quickly “sours” once you’ve told her of your “indiscretions”?
• Second, an employment relationship is not like a marriage contract or any other type of binding, legal contract or arrangement. Nonetheless, many people continue to view it as such. The fact of the matter is, almost all employment arrangements today are what’s known as “at will” arrangements. That means that, like political appointees, an employee “serves” at the “pleasure” of the company. If and when it is no longer your employer’s “pleasure” to keep you, you will be gone, gone, gone. Still, many want to believe that their co-workers (and yes, sometimes, even their boss) are true “friends,” their “family-in-residence,” as it were, but that really isn’t true at all.

If you currently find yourself facing a career dilemma such as the one described in this blog, I suggest that you STOP and ask yourself these questions:

• “If I stay where I am for the rest of my career, am I okay with that?”
• “Has my ‘story’ at my current job been completely written yet?
• “If I were unemployed and had a chance to interview for my current job, would I do it?”
• “Money aside, do I really love this job?”

If your answers to these questions is a resounding “yes,” then stop looking NOW . . . get control over the urge to “confess” and get back to work!

Risks Inherent in Confessing Your Career ‘Affair’ or ‘Indiscretion’

On the other hand, if your answers to these questions are even qualified “no’s,” then the only question becomes whether or not to “confess.” The short answer is: Don’t even think about it unless you want your career to tank at your current company! If you choose to ignore this advice, here is what, at a minimum, awaits you for as long as you remain with your current employer:

• Don’t expect to any longer be seriously considered for any promotions that may come up.
• If you get a salary increase, it will be miniscule at best.
• Don’t expect to any longer even be considered for involvement in any long-term, high-profile company projects.
• Expect your professional brand to be quickly and irretrievably “tarnished,” and expect it to grow even more “tarnished” the longer you stay with the company.
• Anticipate that the “great relationship” you thought you had with your current boss will soon head south.

Do you still believe, then, that “coming clean” with the boss if you are “looking” is a good idea? I hope not. Don’t make the mistake so many excellent candidates tend to make by telling your boss you’re “looking.” There is absolutely no way whatsoever that this can ever be to your benefit or advantage.

Rather, take a cue from Yahoo CEO, Marissa Mayer. This savvy young executive demonstrated that she definitely knows how the hiring “game” is played. She also showed that she is an expert player at the game. The “advance warning” she gave her boss at Google that she was “looking”—exactly 30 minutes before she left!

爱情顾问? ♡＾▽＾♡

不知何时变了一位大学朋友的爱情顾问。
这一位朋友有好多年没联络了。
刚好去年出差去Penang, 就顺便联络她就见个面。就将联络回了。
离开大学只有见过三四次而已。这一轮见面就是一个长聚会了。
当然提起了我的离婚故事。对 ,她也认识他。
当然她给的反应是很大也不可思议。 ⊙▂⊙
也很难想像自己怎样熬过去。
但这一切都已是过去。就这样喝茶和晚饭一起吃和聊天。就那样好久没联络的朋友就联络上了。
在四月又再去 Penang, 又联络回这位老朋友要再次约会但是他说不得空。
但还是在电话里聊了起来。告诉我她已经在谈恋爱了。
哈哈哈。。。不知道为什么每次听到朋友谈恋爱都很开心也很祝福他们。
虽然自己也不敢再渴望爱情了,但朋友谈恋爱也会开心。
当然她分享了在恋爱里的问题。让我感受到我也经历过的问题。
她真的爱上他了。但是第一次恋爱的她抱着一个渴望的爱情剧情。
希望着他能够像偶像剧里的男主角那样的对待她。
希望他能够了解她。 希望他可以很浪漫的对她。
哈哈哈哈。。。。我也度过过那个阶段。
只好跟这一位朋友分享自己的经历。
告诉她这一切都是在剧情片发生的事。
那是照着剧本来写的爱情但他们的爱情要他们自己去写。
一个第一次恋爱的男人也不会浪漫到哪儿。
所以叫她清醒过来别把偶像据昏迷了理智。
如果你不把自己的想法和感受表达出来对方不知道妳对他有要求啊!
他又不是妳肚子里的虫他怎知道你要什么。
反复这番话对以前的我说。
还提醒她一定要expect less from others, express yourself more to others。
这番话也是经历了过候学会来的。 ╥﹏╥
听着她说她的故事,也好像听着自己的过去。
虽然现在能够的分享自己经验,不知以候的我当遇到同个问题时是否能够那么的理智面对同个问题。 【・_・?】